Subject: I’m not the one and we’re not the two
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 49 year old single woman and I say I’m single because I’ve been in a dead-end relationship for almost 10 years. I was so in love with this man and I felt like he loved me but he stopped telling me after 3 years of being together. Instead of telling me, he’d say that I was the closest thing he had to a wife and everyone knows who his #1 is. I was too needy and gullible back then to realize how stupid that sounded. There have been a few incidences here and there where I’d hear something about my man out in the streets and he would always say that other women are jealous of me because he’s all mine. He has a huge ego and I fed it for years and now that I’ve come to my senses, I want out of this foolishness. Our house is in my name, his car is in my name and he has a credit card that I let him use. It’s been a cycle of this man telling me whatever I need to hear so I won’t dump him. But I’m ready to go for good and here is why… I got home from work Tuesday and he was already home, in his bathrobe. He said that it felt like he had Covid, so I told him to go to the doctor. He left at 4pm and called later to say he’d been admitted and he would call me later. I did not even get to ask what hospital he was in and his phone must’ve been off because I couldn’t reach him. My spidey senses kicked in and I called his mother to see if she’d heard from him. She said he had just left her house and he looked fine to her. He came in the next morning with Gatorade and Ibuprofen and he said it was dehydration. I’m not the one and we’re not the two. It’s time for him to go and I need advice on how to break the cycle so he doesn’t keep lying and cheating. How do I get rid of this man?